When I first became facinated with the lifestyle I, like many, thought it was a place for Barbie and Ken look alikes. Imagine my surprise when I attended my first meet and greet and thought I was at a PTA meeting. Yes, the music was playing and the booz flowing but, had I not known differently, I would have never guessed the people in the room were there for anything more than good music, good drinks and good friends.
Why I expected to find people in various stages of undress, or dressed like street walkers and Chippendale boys I'll never know. But, I did.
What I found was a cross section of people age and body wise. The personalities were as varied as you'd find anywhere; from shy to outgoing, quiet to gregarious, friendly to not so friendly. I was also pleasantly surprised that in this community how you behave is far more important than what you look like.
On the play front my observations, hardly scientific or projectable, are that the more average the people the fun they are. I have had incredible sexy times with people who would describe themselves as average, maybe a little extra padding, look good in jeans and a sweat shirt. Attitude is everything. Confidence without ego and cockiness is very much a turn on for me.
Well spoken, not brainiac but articulate, people are my favorites. Body wise I like proportional bodies. Not rail thin or morbidly obese but the range in between is pretty wide for me. I go to the gym regularly though I am not mr six pack abs, nor am I carrying a keg. I like different shapes. I am not a breast man. If I have a preference in this area it is to the smaller side, 34C and smaller. I have put my cock between 40DD and enjoyed it but I do ascribe to the adage that more than a mouthful's a waste.
Nice legs athletic not tooth picks make me weak in the knees. A shapely ass, bubble butts, slightly ample make me swoon. I love eating a woman from behiind. There ios something incredible about it.
How about you?
Thursday, January 31, 2008
Monday, January 28, 2008
Married Man Playing Alone Less Onerous with Age
Let's face it double standards abound everywhere in life. The lifestyle is no different. Married men playing alone have to be exceptional individuals if they hope to connect with anyone especially a committed couple. It does happen though. I am living proof.
Before you going off saying geez what an ego maniac. He thinks he's exceptional let me define terms. In this case exceptional would include:
- exceptionally rescpectful and humble
- exceptionally patient and respectful of both the wife and husband
- exceptionally humbled by the fact that he gets to share a gift
- exceptionally diligent in putting their pleasure first.
These requirements are true for all single guys in the lifestyle but especially so for married guys playing alone.
It seems older guys have an advantage. One of the few places we do. Probably because we have been married a loooong time and people more readily accept that good marriages change and evolve. Perhaps its because we know our way around a woman's body and play it like a fine instrument not a drum set. Maybe its that we are more perceptive of body language and the subtle signs of intense enjoyment.
one of my favorite mmf 3some positions is woman on top in a chair facing away with her husband's cock deep in her while i suck and lick her clit. It's a position few women can resist surrending in and the look in a woman's face as she cums is incredible.
Before you going off saying geez what an ego maniac. He thinks he's exceptional let me define terms. In this case exceptional would include:
- exceptionally rescpectful and humble
- exceptionally patient and respectful of both the wife and husband
- exceptionally humbled by the fact that he gets to share a gift
- exceptionally diligent in putting their pleasure first.
These requirements are true for all single guys in the lifestyle but especially so for married guys playing alone.
It seems older guys have an advantage. One of the few places we do. Probably because we have been married a loooong time and people more readily accept that good marriages change and evolve. Perhaps its because we know our way around a woman's body and play it like a fine instrument not a drum set. Maybe its that we are more perceptive of body language and the subtle signs of intense enjoyment.
one of my favorite mmf 3some positions is woman on top in a chair facing away with her husband's cock deep in her while i suck and lick her clit. It's a position few women can resist surrending in and the look in a woman's face as she cums is incredible.
Thursday, January 24, 2008
Who cheats?
I saw a statistic I found interesting. It suggested that 55% of married women have extramarital sex. The percentage is higher for married men but the gap between the two has narrowed immensely over the past decade. The really astounding fact is that 90% of the women stepping out feel they are entitled to do so. Is this a statement on the sad state of marital relationships or a sign of healthy self awareness and taking responsibility for ones own satisfaction and happiness.
I don't know but its a question worth asking.
The number of married people looking for something extra online sites has exploded. While men clearly outnumber women on these sites the gap here is also narrowing. The hot demographic seems to be 32-55, married more than 10 years, generally happy with the marriage on an emotional level but totally unfulfilled sexually.
I would love to ask women who are stepping out how much more they enjoy the extramarital sex with their buddy versus the sex at home. Do they think the sex at home could ever be as hot and physically fulfilling as it is outside? How to men feel? What percentage of women stepping out are simply letting the "dirty girl" in them loose versus looking for a deep meaningful relationship?
Every man's dream is a lady at the table and a wanton whore in bed? Could it be that it is every woman's secret dream as well?
I don't know but its a question worth asking.
The number of married people looking for something extra online sites has exploded. While men clearly outnumber women on these sites the gap here is also narrowing. The hot demographic seems to be 32-55, married more than 10 years, generally happy with the marriage on an emotional level but totally unfulfilled sexually.
I would love to ask women who are stepping out how much more they enjoy the extramarital sex with their buddy versus the sex at home. Do they think the sex at home could ever be as hot and physically fulfilling as it is outside? How to men feel? What percentage of women stepping out are simply letting the "dirty girl" in them loose versus looking for a deep meaningful relationship?
Every man's dream is a lady at the table and a wanton whore in bed? Could it be that it is every woman's secret dream as well?
Wednesday, January 23, 2008
Two's Company, Three's a BLAST!
A good friend suggested I blog on the subject of threesomes.
As an undergrad, many years ago, I read Roberth Rimmer's, The Harrod Experiment and have been fascinated with alternative lifestyles ever since.
I live a very vanilla life in public. I am married to a wonderful woman who is as conventional as they come. We've had our ups and downs and our relationship is best described as comfortable and friendly.
She knows I have a fascination with alternative lifestyles and I have even suggested we dabble. Not her cup-o-tea so no dice. But, her unwillingness did not stop the fascination or the resulting fantasies and the building curiosity that just had to become reality... and did.
No regrets. No guilt. No split loyalties or alienated affections.
HBO's Real Sex series depicts a swingers convention (camp out) as representative of the lifestyle and people in it. True most people I've met are as normal as anyone else you'd meet at the grocery or the soccer field. They do come in many shapes and sizes, transcend the full age spectrum and are as diverse personality wise as the rest of the population. The only difference is they separate sex from love making and enjoy both with gusto. The sex part involves others in various combinations.
I have been third to a number of couples, mostly married, and have found two things. First, these friendships last and second the sex is awesome. I have also found that the women enjoy it more than the men (although its close) and harbor no guilt or shame in the fact. They love being the center of attention and even the most reserved revel in the fact that two men are devoted to bringing them to levels of pleasure that grow with each encounter.
MFM threesomes are my favorite, though I have done FMF as well. FMF is too much work for a guy who likes to give pleasure more than get. Both are total sensory experiences. The sights, sounds, smells and tastes (especially the tastes) are indescribably good.
The secret is the lady is the center of attention and directs, either assertively or subtly, the action. When three people really get into it you'd be surprised what can happen. Boundaries, though always respected, are often redefined. It's all good!
As an undergrad, many years ago, I read Roberth Rimmer's, The Harrod Experiment and have been fascinated with alternative lifestyles ever since.
I live a very vanilla life in public. I am married to a wonderful woman who is as conventional as they come. We've had our ups and downs and our relationship is best described as comfortable and friendly.
She knows I have a fascination with alternative lifestyles and I have even suggested we dabble. Not her cup-o-tea so no dice. But, her unwillingness did not stop the fascination or the resulting fantasies and the building curiosity that just had to become reality... and did.
No regrets. No guilt. No split loyalties or alienated affections.
HBO's Real Sex series depicts a swingers convention (camp out) as representative of the lifestyle and people in it. True most people I've met are as normal as anyone else you'd meet at the grocery or the soccer field. They do come in many shapes and sizes, transcend the full age spectrum and are as diverse personality wise as the rest of the population. The only difference is they separate sex from love making and enjoy both with gusto. The sex part involves others in various combinations.
I have been third to a number of couples, mostly married, and have found two things. First, these friendships last and second the sex is awesome. I have also found that the women enjoy it more than the men (although its close) and harbor no guilt or shame in the fact. They love being the center of attention and even the most reserved revel in the fact that two men are devoted to bringing them to levels of pleasure that grow with each encounter.
MFM threesomes are my favorite, though I have done FMF as well. FMF is too much work for a guy who likes to give pleasure more than get. Both are total sensory experiences. The sights, sounds, smells and tastes (especially the tastes) are indescribably good.
The secret is the lady is the center of attention and directs, either assertively or subtly, the action. When three people really get into it you'd be surprised what can happen. Boundaries, though always respected, are often redefined. It's all good!
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